Hey, wow, you managed to bring up a very provocative subject in your first post! We had a discussion about the article I suspect you're talking about:
http://z4.invisionfree.com/Nikki_and_Helen...p?showtopic=740You can see it got quite heated.
But in addition, I urge you to read a recent interview she did with AfterEllen where she addresses this very issue:
http://z4.invisionfree.com/Nikki_and_Helen...?showtopic=1051I found this second interview, along with some other longer interviews she did, to be very reassuring in terms of her views on sexuality.
Oh, and make sure you go back and watch S1 and S2--they're WAY better than S3!