Title: Rules Of The Board
Description: Please read
Description: Please read
I love MJNet - May 27, 2006 10:27 PM (GMT)
Rules of the board
Okay, so we try to avoid too many rules on our boards, but we do have some.
1 ) We have a saying when discussing or debating something with another board user.
Attack the post – not the poster.
This might seem easy to adhere to, but often it isn’t when something becomes heated and emotions become involved.
If you feel you have been attacked personally – please try not to respond but instead report it via email or Private message by contacting the administrators and moderators on this board.
You – the poster – are the ones in control of what is said. Its actually quite simple - think before you submit, no matter how angry/emotional/hurt/wronged or misunderstood you might feel.
All reports or incidents are considered on an individual basis.
We will be operating a temporary and permanent banning system.
A temporary system will be for a 2-week period.
We would make an announcement with any banning that might take place on the board although it wouldn’t be fair to discuss any finer details. It will only be who is banned, and the incident/s that led to the decision. They will not be open to further discussion.
We cannot always be around the board when something happens. Please bear this in mind if something ensues – it might take a little time before action is taken because of this. Unfortunately (or is that fortunately?) we have a life away from the boards.
2 ) Please, please, please - make sure there isn't already another topic like the one you want to post already here! Use it if there is.
3 ) If a post goes off topic - don't worry. We have often found that it is part and parcel of the way people tend to post - and that it will often drift back to the original topic somehow.
4) If you can't respect our decisions as the moderators of the board - then we can't do anything about that - except make harder decisions.
5 ) We have banned people in the past. For us it is a final resort, and one we don't take lightly - but we won't hesitate to remove any disruptive influences. Likewise, if a poster we know of is here simply to antagonise, you will be removed from the board.
Also, even if you don't push past any of the board rules, if there are a number of complaints from others about one (or more) poster/s we will have a word via PM. If the harmonic of the board is being disrupted, intentionally or not, we think its only fair to give warning of this and a request is made to look at why this might be happening to those involved to try and avoid it being repeated. However if you cannot accept this request, warnings about future behaviour will be given.
We reserve the right to ban without reason if we feel it is in the best interest to the overall harmony of the board to act whatever the circumstances.
Any banning is not open to further discussion and our decision is final.
6 ) No extensive use of text spelling please! Its simply because we find many readers can't and won't read it, and its personally something we don't like or agree with in the context of a board environment.
7 ) No personal information about another member to be disclosed without their express permission. Also PM's or Emails sent to another board member are to remain private unless the sender gives permission otherwise. Always ensure you report an abusive PM or Email to us though with full details.
8 ) Now we don't want to discourage younger posters, however we do feel that there is a limit simply because Bad Girls isn't suitable for under 18's according to UK classification!
It doesn't mean we will stop anyone under 18 from posting, but we do consider anyone under 14 as being too young and if found will be removed from the board membership. Equally, any member between the age of 14 and 18 will be judged on their own merit. If you behave in a mature enough way, we won't bother you.
9 ) Ultimately, remember, while we don't mind most things, Mandana Jones, Simone Lahbib and their families are allowed privacy as they see fit. Please do not place any material that will breach privacy or cause offense. If it would offend you, then don't post it about another person!
In the past, whether intentional or not, some posts or posters have gone beyond what is considered reasonable and fair.
Most has been caused by lack of thought before posting or asking a question. We would like to remind everyone who might want to know something about Mandana Jones or Simone Lahbib - what they want known is out there in the public domain - so if its not there, its because it is they want it kept private.
And thats it folks. We hope you have a great time here.
Okay, so we try to avoid too many rules on our boards, but we do have some.
1 ) We have a saying when discussing or debating something with another board user.
Attack the post – not the poster.
This might seem easy to adhere to, but often it isn’t when something becomes heated and emotions become involved.
If you feel you have been attacked personally – please try not to respond but instead report it via email or Private message by contacting the administrators and moderators on this board.
You – the poster – are the ones in control of what is said. Its actually quite simple - think before you submit, no matter how angry/emotional/hurt/wronged or misunderstood you might feel.
All reports or incidents are considered on an individual basis.
We will be operating a temporary and permanent banning system.
A temporary system will be for a 2-week period.
We would make an announcement with any banning that might take place on the board although it wouldn’t be fair to discuss any finer details. It will only be who is banned, and the incident/s that led to the decision. They will not be open to further discussion.
We cannot always be around the board when something happens. Please bear this in mind if something ensues – it might take a little time before action is taken because of this. Unfortunately (or is that fortunately?) we have a life away from the boards.
2 ) Please, please, please - make sure there isn't already another topic like the one you want to post already here! Use it if there is.
3 ) If a post goes off topic - don't worry. We have often found that it is part and parcel of the way people tend to post - and that it will often drift back to the original topic somehow.
4) If you can't respect our decisions as the moderators of the board - then we can't do anything about that - except make harder decisions.
5 ) We have banned people in the past. For us it is a final resort, and one we don't take lightly - but we won't hesitate to remove any disruptive influences. Likewise, if a poster we know of is here simply to antagonise, you will be removed from the board.
Also, even if you don't push past any of the board rules, if there are a number of complaints from others about one (or more) poster/s we will have a word via PM. If the harmonic of the board is being disrupted, intentionally or not, we think its only fair to give warning of this and a request is made to look at why this might be happening to those involved to try and avoid it being repeated. However if you cannot accept this request, warnings about future behaviour will be given.
We reserve the right to ban without reason if we feel it is in the best interest to the overall harmony of the board to act whatever the circumstances.
Any banning is not open to further discussion and our decision is final.
6 ) No extensive use of text spelling please! Its simply because we find many readers can't and won't read it, and its personally something we don't like or agree with in the context of a board environment.
7 ) No personal information about another member to be disclosed without their express permission. Also PM's or Emails sent to another board member are to remain private unless the sender gives permission otherwise. Always ensure you report an abusive PM or Email to us though with full details.
8 ) Now we don't want to discourage younger posters, however we do feel that there is a limit simply because Bad Girls isn't suitable for under 18's according to UK classification!
It doesn't mean we will stop anyone under 18 from posting, but we do consider anyone under 14 as being too young and if found will be removed from the board membership. Equally, any member between the age of 14 and 18 will be judged on their own merit. If you behave in a mature enough way, we won't bother you.
9 ) Ultimately, remember, while we don't mind most things, Mandana Jones, Simone Lahbib and their families are allowed privacy as they see fit. Please do not place any material that will breach privacy or cause offense. If it would offend you, then don't post it about another person!
In the past, whether intentional or not, some posts or posters have gone beyond what is considered reasonable and fair.
Most has been caused by lack of thought before posting or asking a question. We would like to remind everyone who might want to know something about Mandana Jones or Simone Lahbib - what they want known is out there in the public domain - so if its not there, its because it is they want it kept private.
And thats it folks. We hope you have a great time here.
I love MJNet - May 28, 2006 10:18 PM (GMT)
In addition to the rules here are some FAQ in regard the board policies.
A debate - nothing wrong in a good debate.
However, at times you will find yourself at odds with another poster.
It might become personal to you and them - but please always try and avoid making it personal. In other words, don't attack someone, attack what they say.
Here are some guidelines:
Don't be rude to others, or make an argument personal
Know the difference between a difference of opinion and a personal attack
Don't try to "win" an argument by repeating yourself over and over
Don't tell others what to post
Keep it clean, don't use profanity
Q Why can't I tell this poster what an idiot he is; every single thing he posts is just so wrong?
A If you can't find a respectful way to express your difference of opinion, then you're better off saying nothing at all. Don't talk down to other posters, lecture them or be rude and dismissive. Disagreement is fine, but attacking another poster personally will get you banned or warned. We mean it.
Q But he started the fight by attacking me! Can't I defend myself?
A No, you can't. This is a forum for the discussion not a dueling society. If you feel attacked, report it and then ignore. Remember, however much you were provoked, if you attack a poster personally then you are just as guilty of breaking the rules. And you, too, could be banned.
Q Okay, so how do I report someone for making a personal attack?
A You can PM or email us or any moderators we might have assigned to forums. We will always try to respond in the quickest time possible.
Alternatively at the top of the box - See picture - you will see a !Report Button. Pressing that will report the post to Admin and we will investigate it!
Q So, what is the difference between disagreeing and being attacked?
A Many of us feel passionately about identity and life. And sometimes if those opinions are disagreed with, you can feel personally attacked. But unless someone is insulting you by name, or quoting you directly and then disparaging you, it is not an attack, no matter how disagreeable being disagreed with may feel.
Remember, this Forum is a place to exchange; it is not your personal soapbox. The goal is to teach and to learn, not to beat down the opposition. This is supposed to be an enjoyable place to discuss, not a battlefield! If you find that you are arguing in circles, then agree to disagree and move along.
Q Why can't I tell a poster that he's breaking the rules?
A This board has administrators, and it isn't you. Telling other people what to do is rude, derails the conversation even further and often ignites flame wars. Report the situation and it will be dealt with.
A debate - nothing wrong in a good debate.
However, at times you will find yourself at odds with another poster.
It might become personal to you and them - but please always try and avoid making it personal. In other words, don't attack someone, attack what they say.
Here are some guidelines:
Don't be rude to others, or make an argument personal
Know the difference between a difference of opinion and a personal attack
Don't try to "win" an argument by repeating yourself over and over
Don't tell others what to post
Keep it clean, don't use profanity
Q Why can't I tell this poster what an idiot he is; every single thing he posts is just so wrong?
A If you can't find a respectful way to express your difference of opinion, then you're better off saying nothing at all. Don't talk down to other posters, lecture them or be rude and dismissive. Disagreement is fine, but attacking another poster personally will get you banned or warned. We mean it.
Q But he started the fight by attacking me! Can't I defend myself?
A No, you can't. This is a forum for the discussion not a dueling society. If you feel attacked, report it and then ignore. Remember, however much you were provoked, if you attack a poster personally then you are just as guilty of breaking the rules. And you, too, could be banned.
Q Okay, so how do I report someone for making a personal attack?
A You can PM or email us or any moderators we might have assigned to forums. We will always try to respond in the quickest time possible.
Alternatively at the top of the box - See picture - you will see a !Report Button. Pressing that will report the post to Admin and we will investigate it!
Q So, what is the difference between disagreeing and being attacked?
A Many of us feel passionately about identity and life. And sometimes if those opinions are disagreed with, you can feel personally attacked. But unless someone is insulting you by name, or quoting you directly and then disparaging you, it is not an attack, no matter how disagreeable being disagreed with may feel.
Remember, this Forum is a place to exchange; it is not your personal soapbox. The goal is to teach and to learn, not to beat down the opposition. This is supposed to be an enjoyable place to discuss, not a battlefield! If you find that you are arguing in circles, then agree to disagree and move along.
Q Why can't I tell a poster that he's breaking the rules?
A This board has administrators, and it isn't you. Telling other people what to do is rude, derails the conversation even further and often ignites flame wars. Report the situation and it will be dealt with.