Hi, I'm attracted to another female at work but the problem is I don't know the sexual orientation of the person I'm attracted to. I was wondering if there are subtle but tell tale signs that someone is gay? Occasionally things happen which leads me to believe she may be interested such as when I talk and smile she'll smile back or she seems to make eye contact quite a bit. Once she also touched my arm to offer support but I'm confused as to whether it may be attraction on her part or whether I'm way off target thinking this. I really don't want to express how I feel directly as she is a work colleague and I don't want to ruin things and make her feel uncomfortable. I just want to know what people think and if someone could point out some subtle yet tell tale signs then that would be great

Thanks

Does she know you are gay? Because sometimes the best way to figure out if someone else is gay is to drop a hint that you are. Refer to an ex-girlfriend, mention going to an event like a gay and lesbian film festival, or a book reading by a lesbian author or something like that. If she's gay too, you'll probably know it by her response. If not right away, then down the line when she starts dropping hints as well. If she's interested in you, once she knows you're gay, she'll probably be slightly clearer about expressing her interest.

If you're not comfortable having anyone at work knowing anything about your sexuality, well, then, it's a much tougher situation. You're just going to have to be really patient and wait for an opportunity to get her very drunk. ;)

That's good advice from abzug. You never know, she could be in the same position as you;

Being attracted to you but not knowing about your sexuality.

Wow, that is quite a good idea, abzug !

I'll have to try it out with someone....eheheh.

@Puck,


What, get your woman drunk?! :lol:

H/N4EVA has anything happened yet? Drop any hints to her?

I had a situation where I had met a woman in the Tokyo airport and neither one of us knew about the other. We had chatted in the lounge and then found out that we were seated together on a connecting flight. Neither one of us were certain about the other and after traveling for 12 hours we were down right exhausted, too. We began to talk about music dropping hints like "Melissa Etheridge" and talking about tennis and Martina. Sheesh it was hard. This was about 10 years ago before "the L Word"and other references we could have brought up.

Hope you find your way.

Oh and in case you are curious, we did hook up and dated once we returned to the States.