ive been holding off telling the forum that my mum and dad are divorcing because ive been doing a lot of thinking, but as you can see im now going to tell you the situation- i got to tell this to more people. my mum and dad both have different stories but ill telll you how i see it. 6 months ago my dad quit his job because he didnt like the way he was being treated, my dad thought hed get the first job hed find because oif his credentials(engineering degree from university he also made 1 or 2 inventions for paper recycling) but unfortunalty it didnt happen that way now my mums angry because shed thought hed get a good job straiught away but didnt a few weeks after dad quit his job my mum and my dad had i fight, i dont like hearing arguements i fled to my room and cried under my pillow i didnt want to hear anything. then we had a family meeting we bearly ever have one, they told me and my 2 older brother flo and sieb that they would try everything to try and fix their marrige but 2 weeks later dad moved out of the house and the wheels of divorce were set in motion and preety soon they were unoficially divorced(there still not offically divorced yet) during the next month there were several meeting with both mum and dad, mum told us her story and dad told us his story it was very frustrating like watching a never ending tennis match-back and forth back and forth .i was very low at that point one day dad asked me to go on a 2 day weekend up in the snowymountains( i live in australia if youre wondering where that is) my brothers thankfully defended me but i was sure thats not the last id here of it. 2 months passed and dad still didnt have a job the money was halfway gone and my mum started fearing the worst and was using the money very sparingly luckily we had a savings account for emergencies. me and dad were drifting further apart soon he folund a nice divorced lady and moved in with her and her 2 children, my brother flo thought he was replacing us with them so he ws very bitter with dad
in two weeks the schoool holidays were coming and i knew there was going to be some kind of invatation. soon enough i got an e-mail asking for me to go to the snow with dad and the family for 3 days. my mum disagreed with this very strongly so i had a hard choice-go with dad and meet the new family, and spending time with dad or going against my mum i knew she was going to be upset with me if i choose to go with dad.but i wanted to get back toghether with my dad so i chose to go with him.
the weekend was fun and the family were nice, mum wanted to find out anything she could. its a week after that holiday now and im thinking too much again, i always do that think to much, dad had gotten a good providing job (wont say how much)
and were getting money but what im worried about is the child settlement, im not sure of the process for me im only 12 years old dose that mean i have to choose between my mum and my dad or will they debate over who gets me? when someone can answer this ill tell you my response, but if i have to choose between my mum and my dad thats just stupid.

First of all I would like to say I'm very sorry that you have to endure the process of divorce. I know exactly what that's like because my parents divorced a couple of years ago and for awhile I felt like a ragdoll between two highly immature children. I had to go to both of their houses a couple of days each week. It's hard to choose one parent over the other but in my situation my parents came to an agreement over me. Unfortunately, going between two houses is really stressful and the end results were not good. I suggest choosing the place where you feel most comfortable living at instead of worrying over which parent you prefer. This will save a lot of stressful moments. Another thing you could do is be with your friends and brothers. I've learned friends and good relations with other family members can help with this stuff a lot. I hope I helped you in whatever way I could and I hope your parents divorce won't cause too much strain on your life.

If your curious about what happend with me and the end results of what finally happened with going between my parents houses I'll gladly tell you. It's better to tell people what happened than keeping it locked up inside. It helps you feel better.

I just wanna say I feel for both of you. My parents divorced 4 years ago and i feel like i got caught in a hurricane.And I strongly aggree with you when you say that its hard to choose between parents I mean for crying out loud they raised you. But I've chosen to live with my dad and stepmom because my mom has got some drug problems. I havent talked to her in over 2 months.

:unsure: Yea Im very late, but all I want to say is to keep your head up hight in life,and maby when you mary youll learn from your mom and pops mistakes and keep your marige going...... :D :D :D see ya....

That is very true, its good to use all your pain and turn it into ambition to do something good with your life.

divorce suck man i know man i feel for ya you aint alone just keep ya head up