VBditz (5:56:04 PM): wad up homie?
TehSqueakerToy (5:56:14 PM): Hey hey hey! Not much. You?
VBditz (5:56:22 PM): nothin. still confused...
VBditz (5:56:28 PM): kinda having a bad day
TehSqueakerToy (5:56:48 PM): Sorry... So, what's up with this whole confused dealie?
VBditz (5:58:21 PM): well, now that Jeston broke up with Stephanie, I really want to be with him, and Im pretty sure he wants to be with me. But i am with CJ. I mean, i knew this would happen eventually, but I didnt know i'd like CJ this much.
VBditz (5:58:56 PM): the plan was always to just give up CJ when Jeston was single, but now I feel like I actually have something to lose
TehSqueakerToy (6:00:38 PM): Maybe you need a little more time? I'm sorry, it's hard to help cause I really don't know how much you like either guy..
VBditz (6:01:03 PM): okay, im going to try to make u understand..this may take a while...
TehSqueakerToy (6:01:55 PM): Sorryyyy
VBditz (6:01:58 PM): CJ (about 1 month ago)= liver and onions

Jesotn (1 month ago)= prime rib

Cj (now)=steak

Jesotn (now)= filemon yon
TehSqueakerToy (6:03:34 PM): Oh Jesus...
VBditz (6:03:47 PM): lol
VBditz (6:03:49 PM): what
VBditz (6:03:56 PM): i know, im fat....fooooood
TehSqueakerToy (6:04:46 PM): Lol. No, no, noooo... That made me think of "Don't leave the person you love for the person you like cause the person you like will leave you for the one they love."
VBditz14 (6:05:03 PM): oh...


VBditz (6:05:17 PM): well if i do, ill tell you if that saying to true
VBditz (6:05:29 PM): i really dont know what to do now tho
TehSqueakerToy (6:07:06 PM): And I think I'm just as confused as you are, right now..
VBditz (6:08:02 PM): lol. what i need to do it spend like 1 night with Jeston, like we used to, to see if i really have the same feeling for him, like i think i have, or if im just making it a habit of being in love with him, ta know.
VBditz (6:08:04 PM): *ya
TehSqueakerToy (6:08:40 PM): That's a great idea!
VBditz (6:09:02 PM): are you being sarcastic?
TehSqueakerToy (6:09:08 PM): Mp
TehSqueakerToy (6:09:10 PM): No*
VBditz (6:09:20 PM): and i know CJ is understanding, but not THAT understanding
TehSqueakerToy (6:09:59 PM): Noone is THAT understanding... I think.
VBditz (6:10:18 PM): i know. so unless i didnt tell CJ, which is wrong, then it wont owrk
VBditz (6:10:21 PM): *work
TehSqueakerToy (6:10:37 PM): You should talk to him..
VBditz (6:11:33 PM): what would i say...."gee CJ, beign your g/f has been swell, but i tihnk i need to break up with you for one night so I can be with jeston. he is soooo much better than you and I just might want to get laid"....WTF!
VBditz (6:11:52 PM):
TehSqueakerToy (6:12:45 PM): ROFL...! That was hilarious... But.. NO...
VBditz (6:13:01 PM): lol, what would i say....if you can do better, you tell me
TehSqueakerToy (6:13:40 PM): I don't knowwwww...
VBditz (6:14:16 PM): EXACTLY! lol. im having some issues. and if Jeston comes over anytime soon, i can guarantee you i will end up cheating on CJ.
TehSqueakerToy (6:15:26 PM): Hmmmm... Tell CJ you're still confused and need a little more time to figure things out....
TehSqueakerToy (6:15:35 PM): And yea, Aimee is hopeless.
VBditz (6:16:06 PM): but if i lose him and realize that Jesotn is wrong for me, i might never get him back. and NO YOU'RE NOT! you have better ideas then me
TehSqueakerToy (6:17:59 PM): Ok, I know we stated that CJ isn't THAT understanding.. But... He'd understand if you're still confused, riiiiight? He even said it before you two got together "She sounds confused to me." And with that on your side, he can't get TOO mad at you...
VBditz (6:19:05 PM): yeah, but he'd still be mad. when we hugged today, he told me he loved me Aimee. I dont know if i cna do that to him. i mean, i do need to talk to him...grrr, im annyoed
VBditz (6:19:08 PM): *annoyed
VBditz (6:20:20 PM): i have to go, ill ttyl








Ok. That is a conversation my friend and I just had. As we can tell she's very confused and I can't think of a lot to help her. And this has been going on for a month or so.. Anyone have any advice? It would be immensly appreciated.

I have VERY LITTLE experience when it comes to relationships; but, I would never leave somebody I liked personality-wise for somebody I liked better based on looks and lust.

But we're not basing anything on looks here, Alexxxx...

I still wouldn't leave somebody for another when things are going well.

Love was mentioned alittle, I am curious to the fact that he said he loved her, does she return his love? If so trading love for lust is the largest mistake a person can make. If you do make that trade he will find someone else very soon after he gets tired of her, and she'll be very hurt by it. What will happen CJ won't be any better, love tears a man up inside, and nothing would kill him more then to find his love not returned. It would be cruel and unusual to continue a relationship with him if she didn't feel the same way about him in the first place.
I'm not sure how old you all are but I'm 18 and can grasp the concept of love, but and still trying to master it. I think that this much drama is usual for people your age. Using people is wrang also, how would she feel put in CJ's position? I wouldn't be happy to say the least.
If you really wanna do something, I would say stay with the one that cares opposed to the one I lusted for. There are two types of men in life, chocolate and broccoli. The chocolate ones are the ones that looks great, and are what you want (what most women go for in high school mind you, big mistake). Broccoli may not look like much but will treat you way better and make your life alot better, they are what you need (women don't come to there senses and date these till after high school or college) I am personally chocolate, I wish I was broccoli atleast that way I could have a meaningful realationship for once, so my suggestion is stay with broccoli, you'll proboly be better off

I would advise that she find out this CJ feelings. If he doesn't feel the same for her than it is only a devotion, not a relationship, which could hurt her more. If they both like each other... It could turn into a very interesting love triangle.

Thanks guys. I told her. She said it all helped a bit.