Well my birthday month is around... that means depression for me.

I don't like my birthday. Whenever it comes around I have problems with my relationship. This time my GF has been crying every night for the last month. I've tried really hard to fix it... now I need help. Ideas (that are reasonably priced or carring.)

Things I've done currently:

-Sat down and talked to her about why I'm depressed.
-Tried to find out my problems with this month.
-Getting help from her friends.

P.S. If you don't want to help then please don't post.

Err, see, to help someone out, you first need to know what's broken. In your case, all you've said is that you're depressed, but you haven't said why you're depressed. And believe me, you can't be all secretive about it.

I am sorry that is happening to you...

Try to do some normal things with her, like going out to eat, seeing comedies (or anything laugh-inducing) and try very hard to not act depressed, even if you are. It may be very hard on you, but it may make others feel more comfortable.

I'd tell you if I knew... I dunno but I think it's cause when my birthday comes around something bad always happen (2 did this time but the other's less important and easier to fix)

You see, forget about yourself for a minute. Try and figure out why SHE'S depressed. If you're truely close to her she doesn't want to hear that somebody she loves is hurt too! Maybe the reason she's depressed is that she thinks that you're depressed over her not being a good girlfriend. Forget about your own problems and try and figure out what's wrong with her.. then you can really help her.

I did find that out... Just cause your thinking that doesn't mean I haven't.

She's depressed because I am... but also because I've been not talking for a week or so...

Then isn't it obvious how to make her feel better!? Just go up to her and say, "I'm feeling a lot better lately! I hope you can too!" Try to talk to her more, and about less depressing things. The answer is pretty obvious if you ask me. And don't reply to me telling me I don't know what its like to be depressed. I've been depressed many times, but you know what? I get over it! And I would never show it to other people.. Unless you REALLY need help, and think you're seriously sick would I ever talk about it. And it wouldn't be my girlfriend! I would get a doctor to help me.

Btw, the only reason I thought you hadn't all ready found out why she's depressed is becuase you never said so.. are their any other facts that you're not telling us?

Ya um... what I need help with is the fact that she's been crying every night...

Ya I got her happy... ish agian. But what I want is for her to not cry every night...

Ya um... she'd probally stop crying every night if you did.

She has emmotional problems... I shoulda metioned it...

She's the kind of person where she over reacts on everything. Then she also takes everything personally so like if you say something in a sarcastic way she'll think of it as rude... then she'll amplify it's problem to a level that's an overreaction.

Ah, I wish I had known that. >_> My mother's the same way. As crazy as it might sound the best cure is pills. XD Do her parents know? I would bring it to their attention, because they can do a hell of a lot more than you can. These are symtoms of Bi-polar disorder, that's why I would discuss something with the parents. Nobody wants her to get suicidal or anything. You never know what could happen if you don't act.

Her parents know and she does take meds... but she's not the most responsible person to just let take them on there own without being checked...

Ya I shoulda said something but hey... everyone has there problems... she's nice and all... but she's fragile.

Yeah, I know what you mean.. It's a very difficult situation... usually with my mother, unless it gets out of hand we just wait for it to pass. I wouldn't know what to do because I don't know the girl personally.

Sara says she's just the same... well except for the emmotional part...

Uhh, that's not what I meant. I'm the same except for the meds part. -_-

Maybe I'm not even the same. ... Maybe I can just relate? :/

I think most of us can relate in some way. XD

Yessss, but I'm a girl. So I can relate to the girl. ^_^

Wooooo, girls! ^_^

*cough* But, yeah. -_-

Well females are better boyfriends... and girlfriends... and guys are... well guys are special... (my guy friends can't help with relationships...)

Heeeeh. I'm not sure I can help out a lot, since I can just about only cheer people up that have concrete reasons for being sad. I guess I could try though.

I think that you have to divert your thoughts from the depression side, first of all. If you start saying "It's impossible", you've failed before you even started. You just have to give the depression hell by making yourself feeling happy. Did something happen when you were young around your birthday, something you can't really remember, but can be etched deep into your sub-councious that causes you to feel distress around that time?

However, since the problem is deeper than that, seeing that your girlfriend doesn't feel that good either, maybe we have to start there.

Depression can be very contagious, you know. If you're depressed, she becomes sadder, and vice versa. For both to get better, I think one of you have to take the "one step into the light".

Really, though, I just think you both need to pull yourself together. Show some stubborness.

DATS WAT IM TAKN 'BOUT!!!

But seriously, I agree. I think the best way to solve this problem is to be strong. And hope to god your girlfriend decides to do the same.

Not something I forgot... but something I hate to think about (refrence in my birthday topic...)

Okay, I know i'm going to forget this, but I read the first part of your post, and then the second, I notice one little thing... On the first part, you're talking about you're girlfriend's problems, and then on the bottom, you're going me me me me me me me. Mabey if you talked to HER about HER problems a bit more, and not focus solely on yourself, then that could fix your relationship problem, and just work from there.

(Of course, I have no idea if this the actual problem, but just putting it out there)

EDIT:Okay, that's already been stated before :P

Okay, I'd just say, try to pretend to be not depressed, and just keep acting that way around her, and her friends. Eventually, if you do this long enough, that acting will come out, and loosen that depression. I just play my favorite sport, or get some music (Not Emo-Rock >_>, if ya have to, get out some crappy old pop, "Celebrate good times, comon" type schtuff) and just work out and think of transferring any depression I have and it goes to the weights, most of the time, you can get a good work-out, and no even feel it. Another thing is go back to your past memories, once I dug up my old Rugrats videos, watched them, and remembered being like 6 years old, waiting Saturday mornings, watching FOX kids, and going to play baseball with my friends, then when I came back, I watched Nick(elodean?) all after-noon. Also, take out some old video-games you have lieing around that you used to like alot, and finish those/play them for a while.

Basically, besides that, just stay active, and always be doing something, because if you're just sitting around, your mind's going to wander, and guess what's going to pop into your head?

This never really works but eh.. : Good Luck. :D